Switching gears now.
We all know that a person should not be the basis of one's happiness, however, after a breakup, it's hard to be happy because all you're used to is having that somebody around. That individual WAS your happiness, so after everything is said and done, it's hard not to sulk and pity yourself for feeling the way you do.
It's easy to go back and think of what the hell went wrong in a relationship or to pick your brain and try to find answers on why your significant other is a completely different person from who you fell in love with, but the fact is, you can't change what happened. If somebody doesn't want to be with you, it's his/her loss. There isn't any point in making yourself feel worse, so let it go and find somebody who fits your needs and shares the compassion you have for life and love.
We all know that a person should not be the basis of one's happiness, however, after a breakup, it's hard to be happy because all you're used to is having that somebody around. That individual WAS your happiness, so after everything is said and done, it's hard not to sulk and pity yourself for feeling the way you do.
It's easy to go back and think of what the hell went wrong in a relationship or to pick your brain and try to find answers on why your significant other is a completely different person from who you fell in love with, but the fact is, you can't change what happened. If somebody doesn't want to be with you, it's his/her loss. There isn't any point in making yourself feel worse, so let it go and find somebody who fits your needs and shares the compassion you have for life and love.
I've somehow found the strength to let go of the past and free myself from what I held onto for so long. What I tried to somehow fix, but was already broken. It took a lot of self-assurance and constant reminders that everything would be okay, but what I really want to touch on is that without good, genuine people, I would not have moved on this easily.
I have such great friends and family who care about my happiness. They gave me the attention I needed when I felt lonely to which I am extremely grateful for. They pulled me out of my house when I needed it, brought me out to socialize, but most importantly, they filled that emptiness.
It isn't about what you lose, but about who is there when you're at your darkest point. If you've ever been in a situation where you're just down in the dumps feeling like shit, please be thankful to those who have lent a helping hand. These people don't come often and we must hold onto friends who genuinely care.
Now, I know I just went on a rant about how somebody cannot be the basis of your happiness, but there has been one particular person that has reminded me that life doesn't stop here. So, to whom it may concern: thank you for chatting with me in the wee hours of the morning, for cracking jokes, for being sincere and caring about my feelings, for challenging me and getting me think about life in a new perspective, and most importantly, for acknowledging my strengths and making me feel like I can do anything I strive for.
"There isn't any point in making yourself feel worse, so let it go and find somebody who fits your needs and shares the compassion you have for life and love."
ReplyDeleteHallelujah! Takes some people decades to figure this one out. Glad you did, dude :) Pool, sometime?
Those we love don't go away,
ReplyDeleteThey walk beside us every day,
Unseen, unheard, but always near,
Still loved, still missed and very dear.
Your positively was unwavering. Your dedication to writing was natural. You loved bird houses and kittens named Chai...or was it just the tea? And sappy 80's music, and you probably would have kicked my butt at pool. And when it got really late you'd starting talking about french toast or some other breakfast item on your mind. And yes, I will have one of your pictures. You loved your family - even when they were difficult to deal with. You always kept in touch even when I disappeared. So, to whom it may concern: You were a great friend, thank you for listening and keeping me company in the wee hours of the morning; making me laugh and annoying me with links to etsy products. It was too soon and too unfair – we should have had more of you. I'll miss you and always remember you.
Your friend,
m.